Be Confident In Your Abilities

Unfortunate incidents happen a lot in our lives. At least it is how we perceive or interpret some of the things that happen to us. No matter how strong you are, there are times you can not deal with the situation, and think that you are the most unfortunate person on earth. But the fact is that such incidents happen to all of us most of the time, and that is what actually makes us stronger as we go through life.
Have you ever seen those who have no place to sleep, nothing to eat, no education, no security, and no insurance at all? I see many of them every single day. While we work on improving ourselves on a day to day basis, we can keep in mind that we are really fortunate to have whatever we have in our lives, and that we should be grateful.
But our minds usually tend to focus on what we don't have, rather than what we do have, and that is what keeps us from living our lives to the fullest.

Here are some points you can take into consideration regarding this topic:
No matter what happens, remind yourself that you are competent and intelligent enough, and that you can resolve the issue and get back on track.

Try the following four-part recipe. It will help you restore your self-confidence, stop worrying, and work on resolving the issue:
Stop for a while, and consider the worst thing that can happen as a result of your current situation.
Resolve to accept the worst case if it happens. Once you accept the worst, you don't have anything to worry about, and so your mind calms down immediately.
Think about all the possible actions you could take if the worst thing happened, and make a note of them.
Start taking action, anything you can do to improve your situation upon the worst case. Your goal is to minimize the damage, not to have your ideal situation. Focus single-mindedly on taking the actions you have specified, and refuse to be a victim to worrying anymore until you have done whatever you can do about your situation.
Once you go through taking the required actions, you will receive some more information from your environment as time goes by, and so you may have to change your approach, while having your destination in mind.

No matter what happens in our lives, we can resolve the issue through using our minds and taking the required actions. But we normally start worrying, and as a result, our brains shut down. When we cannot think clearly, we cannot do anything that will help us resolve even the simplest issues.
When you take purposeful actions in the direction of your goals, you stay calm no matter what happens. Moreover you do realize that problems come not to obstruct, but to instruct. If you had not dealt with all the undesirable and seemingly unfortunate situations before in your life, you would not be the strong person your are now. Is it not true?

It is time to take some actions:
Embrace your problems voluntarily. Refuse to run away from them. There are seeds of valuable lessons in each of them. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "Do one thing each day that scares you." Consider your situation, analyze it properly, decide what you can do to resolve the issue, identify the possible action steps, plan it, schedule it, and take massive action.
Refuse to feel sorry for yourself, and your current situation. Also refuse to blame your problems on anybody else even if they think they are partly responsible. Instead assume total responsibility for your life, and whatever happens to you, and focus on the solutions to your problems. Over time, you will get better and better at solving problems. Thank you for your attention.

Success Does Not Bring You Happiness.

What do you really want from your life? Have you ever thought about this question?
Have you ever noticed the trends in society? The rich get richer, and the poor get poorer all the time. Is it that they are destined to have such lives? Have all the rich hit the lottery sometime, or have had affluent families? Have the rich all been so lucky and got rich through some channel that has not been available to the poor? Is somebody or something holding us back from doing what we know we should do to get out of the situation we are in, and we hate? You all know the answers to these questions. Different people might have different points of views, but we all know for sure that “No Pain No Gain” is correct. We can’t sit around, watch TV, and hope and wish that things will get better sometime into the future when that person stops doing that, or when that person starts realizing that, etc.
Many People really don’t take the time to know themselves at all. They have a vague idea of who they are, what they want, and what their values are. Most people though, know very well what they don’t want, and that’s why we are experts at complaining.
You see, the world is full of opportunities. There is enough even if the population of the earth quadruples. We usually don’t see what we have, and concentrate on what we don’t have. That keeps us from taking advantage of what we already have, and so having this mindset, we stay where we are all the time.
Success really begins when you realize that you are totally responsible for your life and what happens to you, that you cannot blame anything on anybody else, and that, in order to be a success, you need to know yourself very well, maybe much better than your mother knows you. You don’t want to end up accomplishing something that is of no value to you, that you thought it was when you started in the first place. Having this in mind, you can plan it, schedule it, and start working on it until you accomplish it.
Maybe fully 95% of the money in the whole world is being earned only by 3% of the population of the world. They are not very different from you and me. They don’t have extra hours either. What makes them distinguished from the crowd is their mindset.
Most people would tell you that they want to earn $50,000 a month. They might tell you this as their goal. But then, they do not really know what they would do with $50,000 a month, simply because they do not know who they really are. Even if you find them a way to earn the money they want, they will most probably quit their goal, somewhere in the middle of the way simply because it is too hard to keep doing what they need to do to realize their dreams.
It is not that people are not powerful enough to realize their goals. They sure are, to do anything with their lives. The point is that, we often do not have the “why” behind what we do. You see, the “why” is what drives you forward no matter how hard it is to push forward. When you know the “why”, you either find a way or make one. There is simply no room for failure.
The first step here would be to start from our values, so we know ourselves better, and so we can make informed decisions along the way. I will write more about values later. Please stay tuned. Thank you for your attention.

your Inner Dialogue Determines Your Life Quality

Your Inner Dialogue Determines Your Emotions, And Consequently Your Life.
Many different things happen around us every second of every day. We like some of them, and don’t like some. Whether we like them or not, they have been happening and will be happening for the rest of our lives. I do not think it would be my best statement to say that we had better get used to them. Rather, I would say, we had better understand the meaning of them, and if we don’t understand them just yet, avoid jumping to conclusions, and wait for the time we can.
There are some events in our lives that really don’t make any sense at least when they happen. But , we realize that they all had to happen for us to be here now, and the kind of person that we are now.
Life is absolutely phenomenal if you know your purpose, understand the fact that this moment is the prerequisite of the next to come, and every moment must be lived to the fullest.
You can interpret every moment of your life in the most powerful and supportive way possible, and that does determine your next moment. The accumulation of all these determine the quality of your whole life.
In whatever happens in our lives, there is the seed of a valuable lesson that we need to learn and grow. It is easy to interpret anything as bad luck, etc. , but those who are really willing to see the actual lesson/s, rather than the incident, are always the winners regardless of what happens to them. Thank you for your attention.

A Summery on "Crunch Point by Brian Tracy", Chapter 1

Assert Control Immediately


“He that would be superior to external influences must first become superior to his own passions.” –Benjamin Disraely


Your life is can be full of quite a lot of setbacks that would normally tend to frustrate us all. They do happen to literally everybody on earth. Different people have different approaches to the things that happen to them. Your mental approach to the different issues in your life determines how you live your life.
We have a wonderful nervous system, with 100 billion cells, all working together, and cooperating to organize our bodies. Right now, you might be using only 3-8% of your mind. The rest of it simply is not used my many all throughout their lives. It has been said that Enstein used only 15% of his mind, and I think there is anybody that does not know about him. You have all the mental power that you will ever need to deal with any problem that may face in your whole life. The problem is that we come to this world without a user’s manual. We do not know how to use our resources efficiently. The 21 ways that are going to be discussed here, are some of the ways that you could use to organize your life in a better way, and use your resources better.

Most people, when excited or in doubt, start shouting. That shuts down your brain immediately and literally paralyzes you.
When something goes wrong, the best thing to do is to stay calm, and analyze the situation first. Instead of overreacting to the situation, if we first analyze it, and decide the right course of action to take, we will definitely have much better results than if we just automatically react to the situation. Although most of us have got used to generalizing everything, we can start training our brains. Generalization is when you decide that something that has happened now, means exactly the same as something that happened before, and by the way, was not probably very pleasant. Or even worse, sometimes we attach some meanings to some events, and then, probably after some time, we realize that we were totally wrong, and for example that person did not really mean to offend us; it was not to be taken personally.
This is when we should stop for a moment, study the situation carefully, dismiss negative thoughts from our thinking, and really understand the nature and meaning of the event before doing anything about it.
There are many ways you could stop the autopilot mode for a while, when you need to, and reactivate it later if you really think you need to.
Whenever something happens that you think is going to upset you, and probably make you do anything that you might regret later, pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and see yourself as a leader. Ask yourself as many of the following questions as you need to:
What would a leader do in this situation?
If I was a role model for others, how would I behave now? How would I respond?
How would I behave if I wanted to set a good example, or I were to give a lesson?
How would I behave if I were to prove my ego wrong, if I did not want to win, and instead wanted to let the other person win and feel good?
You could then act according to the answer you would get to those questions. You always know what the right thing to do is, only you need to come out of the auto pilot mode, and consciously take control.
There are two big enemies to success. They usually exist in most of us, if not all of us. We are almost always held back by “the fear failure”, and “the fear of rejection”You experience the fear of failure when you are too concerned about the future, and you are afraid you might fail to accomplish something way down the road. It takes you from taking the actions that may or may not lead you to having your desired results sometime in the future. But how will you know if you are going to have the results sometime in the future, if you don’t take the necessary actions in the first place? Taking calculated risks would be a good way to overcome the fear of failure. Also using your intuition might help a lot.
You experience the fear of rejection when you are afraid you might be criticized by the people around you if you took a certain course of action, especially by those who, you look up to, and need their approval the most, like your parents or your spouse. The fear of rejection comes in the way of your natural flow of thoughts, and will paralyze you.
The fear of failure and rejection are unfortunately taught to us when we are still very young, maybe even before we turn 6, by our parents, education, or even sometimes our culture, and stay with us all throughout our lives. We could get rid of them though, if we consciously take action to eliminate them.
Thanks for reading. Please stay tuned. I will update this article shortly.

A Summery on "Crunch Point" by Brian Tracy

This is a summery that I have written on a book titled, “Crunch Point”, by Brian Tracy. I hope you can find useful information here.


Introduction


No matter where you are in your life or business right now, you have had hard times, when it seemed absolutely impossible to move on any further. And you are going to have the same all throughout your personal and professional life.
You might face financial problems; you might have problems with your relationships; or you might have problems with your family. No matter which of the above happens to you, they are all similar in nature, and could be tackled efficiently with the right and supporting mindset.
You may be an organized person and have everything in place in case anything happens in the future. But no matter how organized you are, there are always circumstances nobody knows about until they happen. People you might depend highly on, could die, a major income stream of yours could all dry up due to some reason you would not like at all, but it might happen, and a lot of similar situations.
Now the question is, how are you going to handle the different situations in your life, so you always live reasonably happily and come out of every situation in your life with a higher level of knowledge and maturity?
Between 1934 and 1961, the historian Arnold Toynbee wrote his twelve-volume series, A Study of History, in which he examined the rise and fall of twenty-six civilizations over 3,000 years. Much of what he discovered applies to our lives and businesses as well, since there are similar trends in history that keep repeating themselves as time goes on. He developed the Challenge Response Theory of History based on his research. He discovered that every civilization began as a small tribe or group of people suddenly faced with a challenge from the outside, usually another group or tribe. In business, the other group could be our business rivals or competitors, or the unexpected changes taking place in the marketplace.
Toynbee found that in order for them to survive, the leader constantly had to reorganize the tribe according to the challenges faced, and move on. If the leader made the right decisions, and took the right actions, the tribe would get through the situation, stronger than before. In the process of growing, they would have to confront other tribes, rise to the challenge they initiated themselves, and keep moving on. It is very interesting to note that there were even very small tribes, but because constantly made the right decisions, and took the right actions, eventually became a kingdom, or even large civilizations, controlling vast lands, treasures, and people.
From the time you start in business, you inevitably have to confront problems, and they will never end. The universe reorganizes itself in a way that you have problems to solve every single day. We can call them problems, challenges, opportunities that let us learn and grow, or whatever else we may want to call them, but they are here to stay. We can’t predict them, but we can choose how we are going to deal with them. The only part of the equation that is in our control is our response to the challenge.
You see, life without challenges would not mean anything, although we all are constantly trying to get to the point where there are no more problems. As we go along and deal with seemingly different situations, we grow in knowledge, wisdom, experience, and maturity. There is no end to this process though. Friedriche Nietzsche once wrote, “What doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger.”
The key to living a reasonably happy life is to be able to rise to the challenge, and apply your solution right on time. If your solution works, it is great. If not, while focusing on finding the right solution, and not the problem, you should find another solution that you think it works, and apply it. If again your solution does not work, find another one. You should keep repeating this process until one of your solutions works. In the process of devising solutions to different problems, you will automatically add different tools to your life toolbox, and you can apply them to your future challenges, if you think they are similar in nature to your past ones.
All the leaders probably have one characteristic in common. They are able to function well in a crisis. They single-mindedly focus on the solution and the specific actions they can take to solve the problem. Leadership could be defined as the ability to solve problems, of all kinds, including huge problems that arise suddenly and unexpectedly.
The good news is that you do have the ability to solve any kind of problem that you face in your life. There is no problem in the world that you can’t solve, if you apply your intelligence and sometimes your intuition. There are 21 secrets that if you apply them to your day to day lives, you will tackle complex problems much easier. I will tell you about them in subsequent articles. Please stay tuned. I will update this article every day.

You Can Create Your Own Future (By Brian Tracy)

The management guru Peter Drucker wrote, "The very best way to predict the future is to create it." Everyone wants to be happy, healthy, popular, prosperous, and successful in whatever they do, but the only way for you to achieve and enjoy all that is that is possible for is to create your own future. And the good news is there have never been more opportunities, in more different areas, for you to fulfill you dreams and goals than there are today. Your chief aim in life should be to take full advantage of everything that your world had to offer.
There are basically two types of people in our world, the active and the passive. Only about 10% are proactive, and although they are very much in the minority they are the movers and shakers in every area. They are the people who take their lives into their own hand and make things happen. They accept complete responsibility for themselves and the results of their actions. They dare to go forward in the face of risk and uncertainty. When you decide to create your own future, you join this vital minority. You begin to push to the front of the line in your own life.
The majority of people tend to be passive in their responses and reactions to life, constantly wishing and hoping that something good will happen to them. They buy lottery tickets, watch television endlessly, and complain about their situations. They resent successful people, but they are not willing to make the efforts that others have made to achieve what they have achieved. They live their lives like people waiting for a bus on a street where no buses go.