Assert Control Immediately
“He that would be superior to external influences must first become superior to his own passions.” –Benjamin Disraely
Your life is can be full of quite a lot of setbacks that would normally tend to frustrate us all. They do happen to literally everybody on earth. Different people have different approaches to the things that happen to them. Your mental approach to the different issues in your life determines how you live your life.
We have a wonderful nervous system, with 100 billion cells, all working together, and cooperating to organize our bodies. Right now, you might be using only 3-8% of your mind. The rest of it simply is not used my many all throughout their lives. It has been said that Enstein used only 15% of his mind, and I think there is anybody that does not know about him. You have all the mental power that you will ever need to deal with any problem that may face in your whole life. The problem is that we come to this world without a user’s manual. We do not know how to use our resources efficiently. The 21 ways that are going to be discussed here, are some of the ways that you could use to organize your life in a better way, and use your resources better.
Most people, when excited or in doubt, start shouting. That shuts down your brain immediately and literally paralyzes you.
When something goes wrong, the best thing to do is to stay calm, and analyze the situation first. Instead of overreacting to the situation, if we first analyze it, and decide the right course of action to take, we will definitely have much better results than if we just automatically react to the situation. Although most of us have got used to generalizing everything, we can start training our brains. Generalization is when you decide that something that has happened now, means exactly the same as something that happened before, and by the way, was not probably very pleasant. Or even worse, sometimes we attach some meanings to some events, and then, probably after some time, we realize that we were totally wrong, and for example that person did not really mean to offend us; it was not to be taken personally.
This is when we should stop for a moment, study the situation carefully, dismiss negative thoughts from our thinking, and really understand the nature and meaning of the event before doing anything about it.
There are many ways you could stop the autopilot mode for a while, when you need to, and reactivate it later if you really think you need to.
Whenever something happens that you think is going to upset you, and probably make you do anything that you might regret later, pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and see yourself as a leader. Ask yourself as many of the following questions as you need to:
What would a leader do in this situation?
If I was a role model for others, how would I behave now? How would I respond?
How would I behave if I wanted to set a good example, or I were to give a lesson?
How would I behave if I were to prove my ego wrong, if I did not want to win, and instead wanted to let the other person win and feel good?
You could then act according to the answer you would get to those questions. You always know what the right thing to do is, only you need to come out of the auto pilot mode, and consciously take control.
There are two big enemies to success. They usually exist in most of us, if not all of us. We are almost always held back by “the fear failure”, and “the fear of rejection”You experience the fear of failure when you are too concerned about the future, and you are afraid you might fail to accomplish something way down the road. It takes you from taking the actions that may or may not lead you to having your desired results sometime in the future. But how will you know if you are going to have the results sometime in the future, if you don’t take the necessary actions in the first place? Taking calculated risks would be a good way to overcome the fear of failure. Also using your intuition might help a lot.
You experience the fear of rejection when you are afraid you might be criticized by the people around you if you took a certain course of action, especially by those who, you look up to, and need their approval the most, like your parents or your spouse. The fear of rejection comes in the way of your natural flow of thoughts, and will paralyze you.
The fear of failure and rejection are unfortunately taught to us when we are still very young, maybe even before we turn 6, by our parents, education, or even sometimes our culture, and stay with us all throughout our lives. We could get rid of them though, if we consciously take action to eliminate them.
Thanks for reading. Please stay tuned. I will update this article shortly.
“He that would be superior to external influences must first become superior to his own passions.” –Benjamin Disraely
Your life is can be full of quite a lot of setbacks that would normally tend to frustrate us all. They do happen to literally everybody on earth. Different people have different approaches to the things that happen to them. Your mental approach to the different issues in your life determines how you live your life.
We have a wonderful nervous system, with 100 billion cells, all working together, and cooperating to organize our bodies. Right now, you might be using only 3-8% of your mind. The rest of it simply is not used my many all throughout their lives. It has been said that Enstein used only 15% of his mind, and I think there is anybody that does not know about him. You have all the mental power that you will ever need to deal with any problem that may face in your whole life. The problem is that we come to this world without a user’s manual. We do not know how to use our resources efficiently. The 21 ways that are going to be discussed here, are some of the ways that you could use to organize your life in a better way, and use your resources better.
Most people, when excited or in doubt, start shouting. That shuts down your brain immediately and literally paralyzes you.
When something goes wrong, the best thing to do is to stay calm, and analyze the situation first. Instead of overreacting to the situation, if we first analyze it, and decide the right course of action to take, we will definitely have much better results than if we just automatically react to the situation. Although most of us have got used to generalizing everything, we can start training our brains. Generalization is when you decide that something that has happened now, means exactly the same as something that happened before, and by the way, was not probably very pleasant. Or even worse, sometimes we attach some meanings to some events, and then, probably after some time, we realize that we were totally wrong, and for example that person did not really mean to offend us; it was not to be taken personally.
This is when we should stop for a moment, study the situation carefully, dismiss negative thoughts from our thinking, and really understand the nature and meaning of the event before doing anything about it.
There are many ways you could stop the autopilot mode for a while, when you need to, and reactivate it later if you really think you need to.
Whenever something happens that you think is going to upset you, and probably make you do anything that you might regret later, pause for a moment, take a deep breath, and see yourself as a leader. Ask yourself as many of the following questions as you need to:
What would a leader do in this situation?
If I was a role model for others, how would I behave now? How would I respond?
How would I behave if I wanted to set a good example, or I were to give a lesson?
How would I behave if I were to prove my ego wrong, if I did not want to win, and instead wanted to let the other person win and feel good?
You could then act according to the answer you would get to those questions. You always know what the right thing to do is, only you need to come out of the auto pilot mode, and consciously take control.
There are two big enemies to success. They usually exist in most of us, if not all of us. We are almost always held back by “the fear failure”, and “the fear of rejection”You experience the fear of failure when you are too concerned about the future, and you are afraid you might fail to accomplish something way down the road. It takes you from taking the actions that may or may not lead you to having your desired results sometime in the future. But how will you know if you are going to have the results sometime in the future, if you don’t take the necessary actions in the first place? Taking calculated risks would be a good way to overcome the fear of failure. Also using your intuition might help a lot.
You experience the fear of rejection when you are afraid you might be criticized by the people around you if you took a certain course of action, especially by those who, you look up to, and need their approval the most, like your parents or your spouse. The fear of rejection comes in the way of your natural flow of thoughts, and will paralyze you.
The fear of failure and rejection are unfortunately taught to us when we are still very young, maybe even before we turn 6, by our parents, education, or even sometimes our culture, and stay with us all throughout our lives. We could get rid of them though, if we consciously take action to eliminate them.
Thanks for reading. Please stay tuned. I will update this article shortly.
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