Be Kind for Everyone You Meet is Fighting a Hard Battle

Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. This was once said by Plato. It is very beautiful and meaningful.

Sometimes life proves to be unfair. Things do not work the way you want them to. No matter how much you try, you have to try even more, and you cannot get things to the way they were.

You have experienced such times in your life one time or another. People get laid off. People lose their loved ones. People have to leave each other, etc.

All these situations represent change in our lives, which by the way in most cases we do not like very much. We want things to stay the same all the time. But that is not the case, and it is only through changing that we can learn and grow.

Some people anticipate change, some embrace it when it arrives, and like it, and some hate it. No matter what your attitude toward change, it is here to stay, so we had better like and enjoy it, otherwise we cannot be happy.

No matter what the change or the nature of it, you will go through a process of transformation, and you will have become the change once the process is over.

It is sometimes too hard to stay on track while you are going through some kind of change, and you need to know how to maintain yourself so you can keep moving forward.

One of the very valuable resources you can use at such times is your friends, family, your contacts, and those who love you.

Sometimes you do not need any material thing; you would not be satisfied even if you were given the whole world. Sometimes you simply need someone to listen to you, to talk to, and to share with them. Sometimes you need someone who listens to you without being any judgemental. And when you need it, nothing in the whole world can be traded for it.

If you want to have people in your life that care for you, you need to care for people first. In other words, you need to pay it forward. You need to be there for those who need you, treat them as you would like to be treated if you were in their shoes, care for them, and really connect with them. People around you are the most valuable resource in your life. You are going to need them all throughout your life.

It is simple to have good and nurturing relationships. Whenever you meet with someone, pretend as if you were meeting with the most important person on the planet, and you are on your way to becoming a relationship wizard.

Thank you for reading. I would appreciate your comments.

All The Answers Are Already Within You

We all face problems in our lives that paralyze us one time or another, but all the answers are already within us. You can find them on cue if you believe they are there, and will not see them, if you believe not so.

When you have a problem, you must face it early on, or it grows in size and importance, and creeps into other areas of your life sooner or later. For example, if you have financial problems, you can start early in life, read books, take courses, join communities, or do whatever you can do to permanently solve the problem. If you put it off, as time goes by, it gets much more complicated, and much more difficult to tackle.

It is important to note that we have our own share of problems for each time period of our lives, and each must be dealt with on time. If not, they will be carried forward to the next stage of your life, and before you know it, you will have a pile of problems, and not much time to work with.

It is also important to note that problems are the best tools for us to learn and grow, and if you are looking for one, there is a seed of an opportunity in every problem that you face in your life.

All the answers you ever need all throughout your life, are already within you, no matter how complicated the situation. The only thing you need to know is how to go about solving your problems. you need to start gathering information from the inside, rather than relying on the outside sources.

You might not have the solutions to someone else's problems, but you definitely have the solutions to your own problems since they are your problems. You just need to keep looking for them, and trust the intuitive little voice inside you, although in many cases it seems to be totally irrelevant.

It is interesting to know that no matter where you are in your life, you are a perfect human being with all you ever need, integrated within you. Your whole life purpose is to realize this as a result of finding your own perfectness over time. It takes time, not because it has to, but because you think it has to. It is not about developing the skills you want to have or need to have; it is all about realizing the fact that you already have them all. You have heard it said that you cannot teach anybody something they know nothing about; you just remind them of what they already know. Patience, as you might already know, is your best friend in this process.

There is always something between you and whatever you want to have in your life, and it is always you coming in the way. Let the natural flow of life flow within you, and you will be a perfect manifestation of all you can be, or want to be in no time at all. All the answers are already within you.

Thank you for your attention.

Tackle Your Problems

For a moment, close your eyes, clear your mind, and relax.

You must have a lot of things to take care of, or even a lot to worry about. It could be your kids, their future, your obligations, your bills, things around the house, your relationships, your financial life, etc.

Our minds are so good at finding faults with things, and start complaining about them, and once things get worse we suspect that they might endanger our personal lives. If we cannot do anything about them, we start worrying. Worrying creates the very kind of life you do not want to ever have!

This faculty of our minds to find faults with things that are not seemingly working now is really good and healthy if it is utilized in an empowering way. If we did not have this power, we never would move forward in our lives. But we need to train our minds, and take this to the next level on a day-to-day basis.

The point is that although it is very good to keep looking for the problems we see around us, it is not good to stop there. When you do not know about something that you identify as a problem, it does not harm you most of the time, although it may be someone's biggest problem in their life. But when you see something as a problem, and notice it in your personal life, you must take action to eliminate it from your life thoroughly, or it will stay there, grow in size and importance, and will take the peace and tranquility away from your personal life and as a result, from those in contact with you.

Once you have noticed the problem, and identified it, you must find the best solution available to you based on your situation, and take action on your solution immediately.

Perfectionism might want you to keep thinking for a better and a better solution, but that does not work. As soon as you have a solution that you think it works, or may work, or even might work, take action on it, and you will be amazed at how wonderfully the next steps will be shown to you as you go along.

It takes courage to take action in the face of adversity and uncertainty. Courage is like a muscle you have to keep working with until it is strong enough, and the action taking process is automatic.

Alway remind yourself that you can do anything you set your mind to.

Right now, there is within you the potential to be, have, or do anything you want. You just need to tap into your inner power reservoir, and look for more as you go along.

Do not limit yourself even to the extent of your imagination. You can achieve far more than you can imagine. You can achieve anything even if you cannot imagine it yet.

So, here is a little exercise for you.

Identify one of the problems, that has stayed with you from the past six months, and you have not taken appropriate action to eliminate it.

Try to see the problem as it is. Do not make it any bigger than it already is. Try to detach the emotions you have attached to it. For a moment, forget about your emotions about that particular problem, so you can glean the facts out of the situation. The best way to do this is to see yourself as an expert who has been hired to solve this problem for somebody else. If you were an expert in this area, how would you see the situation? What would be the facts you would see? What would be the emotions that your client would have attached to the situation? How would you separate the facts from the emotions?

Once you see the problem as it is, try to find a solution to the problem. Do not fall into the trap of being perfect. "Perfect" does not exist in this world. It might, in a perfect one. Find any solution, anything that pops into your head, and just do it. Do not try to over-analyze the situation. Just do something, anything.

Did you take action? How did it go? Great!

Still can't think of a solution? Do not worry. We will find you one.

Try to break your problem down to as many digestible chunks as possible, so solving each part is easier and possible for you. Now, try to find a solution to each of the chunks. Club the individual solutions together, and you have the one single solution to your main big problem. Problem solved!

I would appreciate your feedbacks. Have a wonderful time.

Success Does Not Bring You Happiness.

What do you really want from your life? Have you ever thought about this question?
Have you ever noticed the trends in society? The rich get richer, and the poor get poorer all the time. Is it that they are destined to have such lives? Have all the rich hit the lottery sometime, or have had affluent families? Have the rich all been so lucky and got rich through some channel that has not been available to the poor? Is somebody or something holding us back from doing what we know we should do to get out of the situation we are in, and we hate? You all know the answers to these questions. Different people might have different points of views, but we all know for sure that “No Pain No Gain” is correct. We can’t sit around, watch TV, and hope and wish that things will get better sometime into the future when that person stops doing that, or when that person starts realizing that, etc.
Many People really don’t take the time to know themselves at all. They have a vague idea of who they are, what they want, and what their values are. Most people though, know very well what they don’t want, and that’s why we are experts at complaining.
You see, the world is full of opportunities. There is enough even if the population of the earth quadruples. We usually don’t see what we have, and concentrate on what we don’t have. That keeps us from taking advantage of what we already have, and so having this mindset, we stay where we are all the time.
Success really begins when you realize that you are totally responsible for your life and what happens to you, that you cannot blame anything on anybody else, and that, in order to be a success, you need to know yourself very well, maybe much better than your mother knows you. You don’t want to end up accomplishing something that is of no value to you, that you thought it was when you started in the first place. Having this in mind, you can plan it, schedule it, and start working on it until you accomplish it.
Maybe fully 95% of the money in the whole world is being earned only by 3% of the population of the world. They are not very different from you and me. They don’t have extra hours either. What makes them distinguished from the crowd is their mindset.
Most people would tell you that they want to earn $50,000 a month. They might tell you this as their goal. But then, they do not really know what they would do with $50,000 a month, simply because they do not know who they really are. Even if you find them a way to earn the money they want, they will most probably quit their goal, somewhere in the middle of the way simply because it is too hard to keep doing what they need to do to realize their dreams.
It is not that people are not powerful enough to realize their goals. They sure are, to do anything with their lives. The point is that, we often do not have the “why” behind what we do. You see, the “why” is what drives you forward no matter how hard it is to push forward. When you know the “why”, you either find a way or make one. There is simply no room for failure.
The first step here would be to start from our values, so we know ourselves better, and so we can make informed decisions along the way. I will write more about values later. Please stay tuned. Thank you for your attention.